Besides all that stuff...Peri also happens to be my mother. And a wonderful one she is! Since I can remember she has always taught us kids to embrace self improvement, the power of the mind, and to live life with flair and laughter. Although there were/are times when I wish that she didn't always know exactly what the real reason might be that I'm sad or mad or want to punch someome in the face! ... "now Lora, think of what YOU might be reflecting right now....", "you are where you want to be honey." Well....she's right! and I thank her for that.
Here is a "confession" she is sharing with us today.
(Slightly Unconventional) Emotional Wisdom- by Peri
Have you felt frustrated with someone this week? I am betting that the answer is YES!
Frustration is a normal reaction that everyone experiences from time to time (unless they are emotionally dead or in a coma) in social environments like work, school, or with family members It is unavoidable. Ongoing triggers like office politics, long hours, huge workloads, inefficient coworkers and deadlines make the workplace the perfect breeding ground for frustration at its best! Not to mention pre-occupied family members. (PS3, cell phones, Facebook anyone), who don’t seem to be pulling their weight around the house.
Whether it affects your efficiency, your sanity, your plans for the evening, or even your mood- in the long run it depends on how you handle it.
My way of handling frustration is rather unconventional. I like to picture the source of my frustration (usually a person) in different, unusual scenarios. For example, a co-worker that I am finding particularly annoying- perhaps they are not returning my phone calls, or, I need them to assist me by providing some information that they all of a sudden don’t seem to be able to- find although they had it an hour ago. Maybe I need someone to help me move something that is too heavy to do by myself, but they cant do it till next week, which by that will time have me fired. Or how about the family member that eats off your precious heirloom plates then hides them under their bed, that you are unable to find until you see a mouse heading in for a snack?
Regardless of the infraction, I get immense pleasure by picturing these “Frustrating Freddies” with necks made of rubber. As I twist their head round and round, the neck participates by acting as a sort of “propeller rod”. Once the heads get round up very tightly- you let go….and imagine the havoc that happens with their necks unwinding at the speed of lightening, and the look of shock and awe on their faces as it happens! Ha Ha Ha. It is pretty funny. Sometimes picturing the head bouncing off of walls to a Rolling Stones tune or the Philharmonic Orchestra for a more dramatic effect, is very amusing. Other times the neck may be so tightly wound that it actually lifts them off the ground – helicopter style, hopefully not into a ceiling fan! There are untold amounts of possible scenarios that are sure to satisfy a harmless, imaginary payback as the result of being an uncooperative idiot.
Ally McBeal perfected this method in her show. Not only does it help you vent, relieve your frustration, and feel a heck of a lot better, you can do so with a smile. Try it and let me know how it works for you!
This is Peri- your emotional wisdom provider- wishing you a frustration free week!
